“Nobody Believes Men”— Pastor Recounts Sexual Harassment, Decries Gender Bias in Assault Allegations

In a bold and emotionally charged sermon, Pastor Philip Olubakin of Supernatural Life Church, Abuja, has recounted his personal experience with sexual harassment in the workplace while calling out society’s perceived indifference to male victims of assault.

Speaking during a recent teaching titled “The Man, The Priest,” Pastor Olubakin said many men suffer in silence because the world refuses to believe that they, too, can be victims of sexual abuse.

“I suffered heavy sexual assault in that office. Even though I’m born again, I swore I’d never sleep with her,” he recalled.

According to the pastor, the incident occurred while he worked at a law firm. A female secretary, he claimed, made it her mission to seduce him, solely because he was a man. When he refused her advances, she allegedly escalated her behavior.

“She sat directly across from me. She would stare into my eyes while dipping bananas in her mouth suggestively. One day, as I walked past her desk, she smacked my backside,” Olubakin recounted.

He said that when he reported the harassment to the Human Resources department, their response was dismissive and laced with gender stereotypes.

“HR said, ‘You no like am? Wetin men dey look for, you dey go gree gree,’” he revealed.

Despite enduring repeated unwanted advances, Olubakin said he was met with disbelief and ridicule, a reality he argues reflects the broader societal attitude toward male victims of sexual harassment and assault.

“Men are suffering, but nobody listens to us. If a woman says a man touched her breast, society doesn’t even wait, the man is instantly seen as 80 percent guilty,” he lamented.

Offering caution to young men, the pastor added:

“If there’s an altercation with a woman, just raise both hands in the air so everyone can see. Because no matter where you touch, you’ll be accused, whether you did anything or not.”

Olubakin clarified that his aim is not to downplay the experiences of female victims, but to spark a necessary conversation about male vulnerability and the biases that cloud public perception.

“Men are already guilty,” he concluded. “They are born, and they are already guilty.”